Friday, June 29, 2007

Ex-Nonsense

Ex-"ex-gays" apologize for "bringing harm"
published Thursday, June 28, 2007

Three former leaders of a ministry that counsels gays to change their sexual orientation apologized, saying although they acted sincerely, their message had caused isolation, shame and fear.

The former leaders of the interdenominational Christian organization Exodus International said Wednesday they had become disillusioned with promoting gay conversion.

"Some who heard our message were compelled to try to change an integral part of themselves, bringing harm to themselves and their families," the three said in a statement released outside the Los Angeles Gay & Lesbian Center.

The statement was from former Exodus co-founder Michael Bussee, who left the group in 1979, Jeremy Marks, former president of Exodus International Europe, and Darlene Bogle, the founder of Paraklete Ministries, an Exodus referral agency.

The statement coincided with the opening of Exodus' annual conference, which is being held this week at Concordia University in Irvine.

Exodus' president, Alan Chambers, said the ministry's methods have helped many people, including himself.

"Exodus is here for people who want an alternative to homosexuality," Chambers said by phone. "There are thousands of people like me who have overcome this. I think there's room for more than one opinion on this subject, and giving people options isn't dangerous."

Founded in 1976, the Orlando, Fla.-based Exodus has grown to include more than 120 ministries in the United States and Canada and over 150 ministries overseas. It promotes "freedom from homosexuality" through prayer, counseling and group therapy. (AP)

Copyright 2007 Associated Press. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.
This admission was very nice to see. I have little patience with these reformation groups, as I liken it to a group of people asking individuals to cut off an arm or a leg since it offends their God. It's no better than an abuser feeding on their victim's denial. The next article, that I somehow missed, is a perfect example of such abuse:
Dad of boy in 'ex-gay' camp speaks out
Larry Buhl, PlanetOut Network
published Friday, July 15, 2005

The father of "Zach" -- a gay teen who sparked outrage after stating on his weblog that he was sent against his will to a camp to change his sexual orientation -- has come forward to defend his actions.

In an interview with the Christian Broadcasting Network, Joe Stark ended speculation about whether the 16-year old, known on his blog simply as "Zach," actually existed. The PlanetOut Network verified Zach's identity last month but did not disclose his last name or hometown to prevent unwarranted attention on the youth.

Stark told CBN he did nothing wrong by forcing his 16-year-old son to attend Refuge, a two-week live-in gay conversion camp run by Memphis-based Love in Action (LIA). The Bartlett, Tenn. dad said he wanted Zach to "see for himself the destructive lifestyle, what he has to face in the future and to give him some options that society doesn't give him today."

"Until he turns 18 and he's an adult in the state of Tennessee, I'm responsible for him," Stark told CBN, a media empire founded by the Rev. Pat Robertson.

The interview drew condemnation from Alex Polotsky, of the Memphis-based Queer Action Coalition, which organized protests against LIA and served as liaison between Zach, his friends, his family and reporters.

"Joe Stark coming out to CBN is personally offensive to us," Polotsky told the PlanetOut Network. "We tried to protect Zach as much as possible. I thought that his parents were loving and caring, but just misguided. But by granting an exclusive interview to that network, Mr. Stark has sold his son out."

Love in Action drew fire last month from gay rights groups as well as parents and psychologists, who denounced the organization for its efforts to convert gay adolescents to heterosexuality.

The protests and allegations of mental abuse sparked an investigation by the Tennessee Department of Child Services, which last week found no evidence of abuse.

However, LIA is still not off the hook from the Tennessee Department of Health, which is attempting to determine whether Refuge is operating illegally. The department will issue cease-and-desist orders if it is found to be offering unlicensed drug and alcohol treatment onsite, said Andrea Turner, a spokesperson for the department.

"If they are teaching only from faith-based materials and they send the participants offsite for drug and alcohol treatment, then they are not required to be licensed," Turner told the PlanetOut Network. "But if they are counseling onsite then they are required to be licensed as a drug and alcohol treatment facility in Tennessee."

Turner said that LIA can either ask the department for assistance in obtaining a license, if one is required, or provide documentation to support their dispute for a need to be licensed.

On Friday, the Love in Action Web site was down, and 365gay.com reported LIA's executive director John Smid and the organization is attempting to head off government scrutiny by changing the organization's Web site's wording and directing clients to established, off-site drug and alcohol counseling services.

Turner told the PlanetOut Network that Smid had not informed the department of those actions and had not yet responded to the department's inquiry.

LIA is also under scrutiny from the Tennessee Department of Mental Health and Developmental Disabilities to determine whether they need to be licensed as a mental health provider. The department sent a letter inquiry to LIA last week as a first step in deciding whether the state will launch an official investigation into any mental health services provided at the camp, according to Rachel Lassiter, a spokesperson for Gov. Phil Bredesen.
Though I'm a strong proponent of the sanctity of the family, it's hard not to seethe. By involving the public to flaunt his sense of morality he has exploited his son. I find it beyond shameful… somewhere in the realm of morally reprehensible.

Wednesday, June 27, 2007

Tuned

Crazy how behind my music is right now. Was totally surprised to hear Suzanne Vega's newest single, Frank Ava, off her soon to be released Beauty & Crime; this will mark twenty years of her music that I've loved. Also heard Belle and Sebastian singing The Blues Are Still Blue, a single from an album (The Life Pursuit) that's been out for more than a year now. Liked A-Z but still haven't checked out Tracey Thorn's second solo album after eight years, Out of the Woods. Never heard of Mika until three weeks ago but love the two videos I've seen of Grace Kelly and Love Today. Need to find better ways of discovering these things than the random stumbling I've been doing for the last few years.

Thursday, June 14, 2007

The Gharkad Trees of Gaza Offer No Shade

CNN published an article a few minutes ago: “Palestinian leader dissolves government amid infighting.” While I'm still pretty ignorant of the social and political powder-keg that is the middle East, even I can see the dark tidings. Some twenty years since inception, it apears Harakat al-Muqawama al-Islamiyya will succeed in controlling the Gaza strip; hard to believe the whole grisly series of events have unfurled in my lifetime. I can hardly wait for responses from the State Department. Not sure where Rice is at the moment, but I'm sure she's happy.

Civil, Domestic

Massachusetts Keeps Marriage Ban From Vote
published Thursday, June 14, 2007

Massachusetts lawmakers Thursday blocked a proposed constitutional amendment banning gay marriage from reaching voters, a stunning victory for gay marriage advocates and a devastating blow to efforts to reverse a historic 2003 court ruling legalizing same-sex marriage.

The narrow 45-151 vote means Massachusetts remains the only state in the nation to allow same-sex couples to marry. The question needed the approval of 50 of 200 senators and representatives to advance to the 2008 ballot.

Both sides pumped thousands of dollars into television, radio, Internet and telephone campaigns. Amendment supporters accused Gov. Deval Patrick of trading job offers for votes, something Patrick denies. Democratic heavyweights such as U.S. House Speaker Nancy Pelosi have local leaders, fearing a nasty marriage equality fight could detract from the presidential race.

Much has changed in Massachusetts since the last vote, when lawmakers narrowly backed the amendment.

Last session, two of the state's three top political leaders, then Gov. Mitt Romney among them, opposed same-sex marriage. Now all three, including Patrick and new Senate president Therese Murray, who presided over the joint session, support same-sex marriage. (AP)

Copyright 2007 Associated Press. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.
Wow.

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

I Can Do What She Can Do So Much Better

I remember being in our Salt Lake server room years ago when coworkers were talking about Paris Hilton. Having no idea that was a person, I asked them, “Is there something special about the Hilton there? I believe the one in Nice is actually more amazing.” After the disbelief wore off, one of their responses was something to the effect of, “I know you're gay and all, but surely you know who Paris Hilton is.” I just shrugged; ignorance is such bliss.

'Spose I should admit to having one of her tracks on my daily playlist1 and I did enjoy watching her die in House of Wax.2 While she can be sexy, I don't think her body is that great. That skinny versus emaciated thing. Then there's something seriously wrong with her face. Yet that's all subjective. When you step back, she's just a play girl making the most of it. Hell, if I'd been handed everything I'd be having all sorts of fun, too.

My internal sense of justice was pleased to see some personal payment. Beyond that, the whole debacle has been further proof of how annoying the media is. NPR had three blurbs: going to jail, sheriff snuck her out, she's going back. That's all anyone needs to know. Yet even CNN still has the Paris Hilton buzzword on their front page.

*ugh* Why did I even bring this up? *snicker*

  1. Nothing in This World is a fun song. It's mostly the Dah dah, dah dah da-da-dah-da that gets me, but the video is cute
  2. On a date with a bisexual… what can I say?

Slip

Last night was the company picnic. It took the form of BBQ/Tail-gate party followed by a trek to the nearby Saints game. It was the quintessential nightmare; coworkers with significant others and children in tow. Felt so lonely. Ate a hamburger while catching up with people I knew. Fled a little before 6pm.

Was exhausted so I crashed on the couch, starting up some TNG. Watched two episodes then went into the bedroom for a nap. That turned into ten hours of sleep—hate doing that. There were some people I need to call and random things to catch up on. Woke up around 6am to get a few things done.

On the way into work I got caught behind a slow-going red Topaz. The driver was some college-aged chick with a long, mousey-brown ponytail who would hyper-turn when checking her blind spot. There was some dorky plastic animal on her rear-view mirror and a bunch of hippie bumper stickers lined up in front of me. Did enjoy one of them: “If you don't trust me with a choice, how could you trust me with a child?” Adoption is the obvious answer yet it was still a good observation.

Despite the initial bouts of summer heat I brought a jacket in today. While my BMI is still unfavorable, I've lost enough insulation to where the over-zealous air conditioners give me a distracting chill randomly throughout the day. I would venture this is some sort of Karmic retribution after all those years of teasing skinny friends in the winter.

Wednesday, June 6, 2007

Plans Awry

On the way into work I pulled up behind a green Acura at a stop light. Had a nice bike racked and the guy looked pretty hot from his side-view mirror. Until he start digging vigorously in his left nostril. Was giggling to myself as he released whatever he found out the window; liked his watch.

UPS tracking confirms that roughly $1000 of computer hardware has been delivered. The concierge might be dropping boxes off in my apartment right this minute. In my prime I was building three computers an hour but this one will probably take all evening. That's okay. It's rainy outside anyway. Plus there's laundry and I'm only half-way through Season One of TNG.

Saturday, June 2, 2007

Chalk, Ghost, Powder

Mother Nature, ever the bitch, continues to vex me. Recovering from the drinking this morning it was bright outside. I stayed in bed to finish watching Aeon Flux on the PSP under the darkened safety of the sheets. Caught up with some eMail after making breakfast. Was heading out after noon with as little clothing as un-embarrassingly possible to soak in the sun. So it was cloudy.

Felt good to drive so I headed south to Calhoun anyway. Got within a mile when it started to sprinkle lightly on the windshield. *sigh* I knew damn well if I got out to walk the National Weather Service would announce a flash flood warning, so I decided to spare the others at the park and go shopping. Neverminding the blazing white skin I was flaunting, it was mildly uncomfortable as the shorts I wore had no pockets. Made me get through faster though.

As I was putting away the groceries, I could see bright streamers of sunlight cutting through the blinds onto my computer chair. *grrrr* I will be forever white.

Last night was definitely entertaining. Will have to recount that later as Charley has a dance recital at 4pm. Haven't visited Tony and Nikki in over a month so there was no way to dodge it, even if I wanted to.

Friday, June 1, 2007

Someone Heard Me Complaining

eHarmony sued in California for excluding gays
By Jill Serjeant
Thu May 31, 7:10 PM ET


LOS ANGELES (Reuters) - The popular online dating service eHarmony was sued on Thursday for refusing to offer its services to gays, lesbians and bisexuals.

A lawsuit alleging discrimination based on sexual orientation was filed in Los Angeles Superior Court on behalf of Linda Carlson, who was denied access to eHarmony because she is gay.

Lawyers bringing the action said they believed it was the first lawsuit of its kind against eHarmony, which has long rankled the gay community with its failure to offer a "men seeking men" or "women seeking women" option.

They were seeking to make it a class action lawsuit on behalf of gays and lesbians excluded from the dating service.

eHarmony was founded in 2000 by evangelical Christian Dr. Neil Clark Warren and had strong early ties with the influential religious conservative group Focus on the Family.

It has more than 12 million registered users, and heavy television advertising has made it one of the nation's biggest Internet dating sites.

The company said the allegations of discrimination against gays were false and reckless.

"The research that eHarmony has developed, through years of research, to match couples has been based on traits and personality patterns of successful heterosexual marriages," it said in a statement.

"Nothing precludes us from providing same-sex matching in the future. It's just not a service we offer now based upon the research we have conducted," eHarmony added.

According to the lawsuit, Carlson, who lives in the San Francisco Bay area, tried to use the site's dating services in February 2007. When she was denied access, she wrote to eHarmony saying that its anti-gay policy was discriminatory under California law but the company refused to change it.

"Such outright discrimination is hurtful and disappointing for a business open to the public in this day and age," she said.

Carlson's lawyer Todd Schneider said the lawsuit was "about changing the landscape and making a statement out there that gay people, just like heterosexuals, have the right and desire to meet other people with whom they can fall in love."

Carlson's lawyers expect a significant number of gays and lesbians to join the class action, which seeks to force eHarmony to end its policy as well as unspecified damages for those denied eHarmony services based on their sexual orientation.
Too funny! I'd have to search for the entry, but I remember commenting in my journal years ago about being disappointed that the heavily-advertised, hope-inducing, seemingly ubiquitous matching service wasn't keen on my orientation. Never occurred to me that legal action might be possible.

What an interesting case. Naturally I want this to be a winnable class-action to see Civil Rights trounce anything associated with Focus on the Family. I wonder at the merits of such a precedent; legislating online presences always saddens me as I see it akin to barbed-wire and the open plains of the Old West.

What would the court order? Would such services have to announce that they are discriminatory hatemongers yet still capable of finding your soulmate? And what would restitution be? If I can establish they denied me three years ago, I can put a pretty big price tag on the emotion pain and suffering from prolonged loneliness. *snicker*